If we went to lunch…

If we went to lunch_feistyharriet_March 2017I love meeting friends for lunch, I love the quick download/upload of life things and thoughts and frustrations and struggles, both trying to pack in the most important pieces into an hour-long break. Although this doesn’t happen as often as I would like due to schedules and kids and work and distance and all the things, if you and I were to meet up for lunch, this is what I would tell you.

  1. I will be downright giddy about how much I love my new job. No, but for real. This has been a total game changer for me and the happiness and light-heartedness from having a healthy work balance is invading every other part of my previously grumpy life. I feel like I can breathe again! I know I’ve talked about this a few times here in the last couple weeks, but it’s just SO DIFFERENT and SO MUCH BETTER than where I was!
  2. I’ll tell you that for the first time in over a decade I finally have a job at church, something to do other than sit by myself on the back row. I will be working with the young women, ages 16-18, and I cannot IMAGINE a job that is better for me. I’m only a few weeks in, but I can already tell this is exactly where I need to be.
  3. I’ll probably gush a little bit about my new “Plan Out Your Life, Harriet! (Or At Least The Week)” plans that are centered on a spiral bound calendar-notebook planner book (that I bought on clearance, because, of course). I have a full month calendar view, plus a double spread for each week with a couple of categories I can fill in, one for appointments, one for my daily housekeeping To Do lists, and one to schedule out my other goals like writing and exercise. I have really loved getting a better handle on when I need to do what to stay on track with my priorities, it’s amazing how much easier and more effective this is for me with a paper and pen version over an app.
  4. I’ll ask you what you are reading, and then tell you about the last book I read and loved, which is “A Hobbit, a Wardrobe, and a Great War” by Joseph Loconte, which talks about how J.R.R. Tolkien and C.S. Lewis were WWI veterans AND bffs, and how they used their experiences in the horrific trenches in France to influence their writing, specifically, the ancient wars of Middle Earth and Bilbo and Frodo’s quest; and the world of Narnia with great evil and goodness in each character. This was SO fascinating and made me want to re-read the Lord of the Rings books AND the Narnia series.
  5. Depending on how our conversation goes, I may get brave and tell you that for the last several months Mr. Blue Eyes and I have been going to couple’s counseling, and it has been so hard and so worth it in every way. We have been married for five years, but those five years have been unconventional in every possible way, living in different states for the majority of our marriage, dealing with court battles to have more contact with his kids, moving stresses, new job stresses (between the two of us we’ve had 5 jobs in 5 years)…it has been a roller coaster. A few months ago we reached the point where we both knew we needed some outside and professional help and we have both been trying to learn how to be a better spouse and a more healthy and well-rounded person, friend, and sweetheart.
  6. I doubt I’d make it long without squeeing about this next thing: as a five-year anniversary present to each other we decided to go on our first real vacation since our honeymoon. We’ve been on trips to see family (NOT the same as a vacation), and we’ve been on many long weekend adventures, but an actual week-long vacation just the two of us? Yeah, it’s been a long time coming. This spring we are going to BELIZE and GUATEMALA and I am so very excited about the whole thing. We’ve got almost everything booked, just doing a little more research on one of the ancient Maya ruins we want to explore. The first half of our trip will be spent on a tiny little island off the coast of Belize, it’s so teeny that cars/trucks are not even allowed, just bicycles and golf carts and fish tacos and beachy sunsets viewed from a hammock. It will be so dreamy! The second half will be spent in the jungle in Guatemala with howler monkeys and ancient ruins and possibly some time in a canoe!? Ya’ll, I am ridiculously excited about this adventure!!

 

 

 

 

PS. The lunch pic up at the top is from a delicious lunch at Serial Grillers, a delightfully macabre food truck turned brick-and-mortar restaurant in Tucson. You can order a Sweeney Todd, a Texas Chainsaw Massacre, or a Jason (meaty OR vegetarian!). Recommended!

8 thoughts on “If we went to lunch…

  1. nonsequiturchica

    Mmmm those mozzy sticks look good! 🙂

    So glad that you love your job now. It makes a huge difference since you spend so much time there!

    Guatemala and Belize? Amazing! Can’t wait to see your pictures!

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    1. Feisty Harriet Post author

      They were delicious! Oh my word, deep fried cheese is my love language. Probably. 🙂

      xox

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  2. Jess

    Oh, I love this. I’m so glad you love your new job and your upcoming vacation sounds amazing! And good for you on the couples counseling. Torsten and I went to couples counseling and individual counseling on and off for about a year in 2015-16 and it made a HUGE difference for us in a lot of areas. I hope it’s similarly helpful for you guys.

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    1. Feisty Harriet Post author

      Thank you for commenting about your own stint with counseling, Jess. I got all nervous about including the counseling bit, but it’s a big thing for us and if we were chatting over mozzarella sticks I would 100% talk about it. So, no deleting. We are still in the early stages, but there has been a lot of steps in a better and healthier direction, and that has been really helpful and encouraging to see.

      xox

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  3. San

    I’d love to catch up with you over lunch!

    I am thrilled that you love your new job, that you’re working with young women, that you’re seeing a counselor and making time for you and your husband… and yay for a week-long vacation!! 🙂

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    1. Feisty Harriet Post author

      Lady, if you *ever* are in Phoenix I’ll take you out for stellar tacos! And next time I’m in the Bay area I will give you a holler!!

      xox

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  4. Spinch

    Should fate ever find you in Atlanta, we should absolutely grab a food.

    I’m glad that the new job is working out well. That last one sounded… uh… less than ideal. And that vacation! It sounds absolutely amazing! (KLynne and I have one planned for May- my first time leaving the US, and I can’t wait!)

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  5. AmySo

    This post made me happy. I’m so glad you have a calling in YW, you will be just what they need too! We are doing a trip to Hawaii in May but yours sounds even lovelier!

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